What Now?

empty nestToday I couldn’t find a blog. I want to find a great, inspiring, practical blog about:
– life after 50
– marriage after 50 (there are a LOT of blogs about meeting someone after 50, but what if you just want to keep the one you’ve got?)
– travel and activities and fun after 50
– reinventing life once the kids are gone

I’m pretty good searching the web, so why can’t I find the kind of blogs I’m looking for?!

Am I going to have to reinvent this blog?

If you can recommend a blog to me, please comment. In the meantime, I’ll keep looking WHILE I start reinventing my blog. I can’t be the only one looking for direction. Guess I’ll just have to help myself for the time being.

SO, here goes:

Aside from selling our old house, finding new properties to flip, this blog, writing more children’s books, and getting Rachel off to college, a big focus in my life is that of “reinventing” myself now that I’m in my 50s and about to become an empty nester.

When you’re in the middle of raising a family it’s hard to imagine that you’ll ever have any time for yourself; that you’ll ever wonder what your purpose in life is. I vividly recall watching an episode of “Malcolm In The Middle” with the family that SO resonated with me. The mom had just finished checking out at the grocery store and realized she had 15 minutes before her next commitment. Fifteen golden minutes! Just for herself! I knew that feeling oh-so-well! She got a quickie massage at the grocery store and the story went on from there.

But, as Gretchen often says in her books The Happiness Project and Happier at Home, “the days are long, but the years are short”. Suddenly, it seems, I’m where I so often daydreamed about. And it turns out, 24 hours is a lot of hours to fill. These days, I might play Spider Solitaire for 30 minutes without even thinking twice about it. Except, that’s not how I want to spend my time! It makes me feel useless and lazy. I don’t exactly miss the old days. But I’m not ready to be put to pasture. And I don’t have the desire (nor the money) to spend hours at the salon – getting weekly massages and mani/pedis, going the botox route, my eyebrows plucked, legs waxed, working out with my personal trainer…

How will I make sure my days are filled with purpose? What is this going to look like?

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