My husband works full time. Plus lots of overtime. He maintains the house and yard and hunts and fishes, among other things. He is beyond busy.
But, we’re planning to downsize in the next year or so. I’m the one pushing it, but I’m also the one fretting about it. I’m worried about what’s going to happen as we get older, once Jay retires. I saw my Dad sort of melt away after he retired. He didn’t have any hobbies of his own. He sort of just followed my Mom around the house until his dementia became too much to handle. And I see my Mom’s world reduced to not many activities. Lots of reading and TV and bridge and card games. She’s happy. And I know that it’s foolish for a 57-year-old to scrutinize the activities of an 80-year-old. Who am I to know what it’s like to be 80?!
However, it does weigh on me. I have a propensity to be lazy. I would prefer not to have my kids alarmed by my lack of interests. And, so, I keep a list of interests. A list of things I like to do or want to do. A list to remind me, when I’m bored, of things to do. A list to keep me from shedding all my petals. Weird? What can I say. I’m a list keeper. I’m the spreadsheet queen.
Here’s my list:
- Doing stuff with/for kids/grandkids (assuming we have some)
- Job and/or volunteering
- Maintaining and decorating home/patio/yard/garden
- Xmas decorating, letter, shopping
- HOA, if we’re in one
- Blogging/writing website
- Book club (I joined one a couple of years ago)
- Bible studies (I’m in two of these)
- Bird watching? (not sure about this one, but I love birds)
- Snow shoeing and/or skiing? (these depend on my knees)
- Golf (took lessons last year and plan to play at least once/week this summer)
- Exercises (for knees)
- Bridge (just signed up for lessons in April and May)
- Going out to eat
- Visiting with friends
- Following politics
- Keeping things organized
- Financial planning/taxes
- Saving money/coupons/gift cards
- Real estate
- Managing rentals
- Estate sales/Craigslist
- Health and style – doctors, massages, hair appts, clothes
- Games (Sudoku, Spider Solitaire, jigsaw puzzles)
- SSPRD trips/outings (SSPRD is the parks and rec organization I work for)
- Exploring Denver and taking advantage of local events, attractions
- Road Trips/travel/visitors
- Trips and trip planning
When you look at everything written down, I doubt I’ll ever be bored!